Girlfriends can spend one session (or more) a week doing things that make them happy – Photo: illustration – NGOC PHONG
There are many cases of crying and laughter because every day relatives and friends mercilessly “sell”!
Recently, the whole TTH family (33 years old, in Ha Tinh) had to have a meeting to discuss how to “sort out the stock” upon hearing his statement: “The eggs have been stored (frozen eggs – PV), it’s late, so it’s late . Nothing else”!
Everyone in the field did not understand what “egg storage” was. After a few hours of the resolution, the whole family breathed a sigh of relief and tranquility with the “bomb that accepts slow detonation”.
Upgrade to not live
Passionate about movement, eager to explore, H. chooses the job of a tour guide. Choosing the land of Nha Trang (Khanh Hoa) to stop, her work is convenient, her finances are rich to help her spend comfortably, there is still some money left to send back to her hometown to give her parents every month.
“I thought there was nothing to criticize but it was sustainable”, “Or is it too demanding?”, “Or is there a problem?”… The neighbors whispered and argued, every day my mother called to insist with H. quickly. .. find a husband to marry.
After many years of “escape from her husband”, she now declares that she is in no hurry to get married, although she has moved on from the “hash era”, focusing on self-development and career development. Although she isn’t the kind of person or concern, H. still chooses to store eggs to support the birth of children in the future. “Partly to make my parents less worried, part of me also enjoys having a child in the future,” she confided.
At age 30, Nguyen Ngoc Nhu (Ho Chi Minh City) believes that the most important thing for women of “old age” is to have a job and a stable income to have the mental stability to take the initiative in marriage.
“If they don’t have a job and a stable financial situation, women tend to have a lot of worries, such as fear of being alone, fear of growing old and becoming ugly, nobody loves them, so they think about depending on someone. . Women need to be financially independent, have a rich inner life, have their own joy and they need to update themselves every day to be confident in themselves,” she said.
Ignoring the neighbors’ whispers, she focused on the “fortified wall” that was her mother. Every day, she spoke and expressed her opinion to her mother that getting married sooner or later is not as important as happiness in marriage.
Nhu’s concept is to marry late but be happy, rather than marrying in a hurry and getting divorced. She also took the typical example of women who married early and divorced, having to send their children to adoptive grandparents to work far away. Loving her daughter, not wanting her to suffer, the mother no longer insists on marriage, as long as she finds the right person.
Untie the prejudice of women “hash age”
Currently, many women have turned 30, no matter what they say, they still choose to live a single life. As is the case with NT Phương (31 years old, in Phu Tho), although she has gone through a dozen love affairs, she was in no hurry to get married, on the contrary, she enjoyed the feeling of freedom and comfort. “Why do you have to put up with the stereotype that when a girl comes of age, she has to get married and then marry an unsuitable husband?” Phuong asked a question.
Phuong said he has seen many women between the ages of 30 and 50 choose a marriage partner who has already had a wife or even “has some issues”. After the wedding, they no longer have children, but they accept living like this to take care of their husband’s family.
Phuong said it’s worth mentioning that these “firefighting” marriages aren’t necessarily long-lasting, so she thinks that no matter how old women are, they need to carefully consider it for themselves rather than being afraid of words.
Mrs. Dang Thi Loan (54 years old, in Hanoi) also confessed, at first she was very worried about her two daughters who were old enough to not get married yet.
Once, she insisted on her daughter, even asked someone to match, but she never got it. Later, seeing that her children had stable jobs, lived happily and comfortably, always met friends and traveled, Mrs. Loan felt safer. She was also “rejuvenated” when her two daughters “slapped” the beauty of their mother, fathers and children traveling far and wide.
Sharing with Tuoi Tre, Master Nguyen Thi Minh Phuong – psychological consultant – said that the notion that the age of 30 is in no hurry to marry has appeared in recent years, while 25 years earlier singles has been considered a “Eh, slow” .
“Why is there the idea that women marry late? Perhaps it’s because looking back at the previous generation of grandmothers and mothers in a difficult period made many female friends feel ‘shocked’ and think that if marriage was so miserable, it would be better get married, that you should get married late.
Instead, they focus on accumulating many aspects such as finances, qualifications, choosing a suitable job, which is the basis for later getting married and having children, which is no longer difficult,” Phuong said.
In addition, she also said that now the parents have changed their minds, from their own life experiences, they realize that when they get married without financial accumulation, when they have children, their life will be different. There will be a lot of pressure, sometimes the gap between the couple comes from there.
New female students went through the admission procedures at the University of Science and Technology (Vietnam National University, Ho Chi Minh City), girls were present in large numbers in an environment where men were considered dominant – Photo: LINH NGA
doctor Khuat Thu Hong – director of the Institute for Social Development Studies (ISDS) – also said that women’s choice to marry sooner or later is down to their own decisions based on each person’s circumstances and needs. It is important to be strong, everyone makes their own decisions, weighing all the pros and cons to choose the option.
She gives advice to women who must be economically independent, have a career so that in any situation they can live alone.
“If you want to have children, you need to be financially prepared. If you’re not ready, don’t stress, don’t force yourself to be like everyone else. You have to be yourself, know yourself. You need to, what are your priorities , what are your conditions for choosing?” – said Mrs. Hong.
In the ‘hash’ age, I feel like I’m still full of life
