Children’s psychology is very sensitive during puberty and they need the support of their parents – Photo: NAM TRAN
Depending on each age, the psychological development of children will vary. A child needs to be nurtured, trained, disciplined and psychologically prepared at each stage.
sex education during puberty
A lot of changes take place in a child’s body during puberty, so it is a very sensitive period for children. Master Nguyen Hong Bach shared that there are many children whose significant growth in height, change in voice or development of genitals affects their psychology.
Dr. Bach told of a 13-year-old girl whose mother brought her for psychological counseling because recently her daughter often locked herself in her room and rarely interacted with relatives and friends. . This condition persists and worries the mother, so she takes her child for counseling.
At the clinic, the girl explained that over the past year, her breasts had grown much faster than other girls in her class, so she was very embarrassed.
“The girl admitted that when she developed breasts, many upper-class people talked about her and examined her, which made her very embarrassed.
Even before going to school, I would wake up about an hour earlier and wrap my chest tightly.
I went to school early so I wouldn’t have to meet my friends and no one would see me,” Dr. Bach said.
According to Dr. Bach, cases like this student’s, also known as psychological mutants, they always think that they are different from others so they try to find ways to change. Therefore, parents need to be equipped with knowledge about puberty, so that they can sit with their children and openly share the information and explain to them about these changes.
“If parents do not have knowledge and they talk to their children with wrong information, children will not trust their parents. This is because children nowadays can get information online very easily Therefore, parents make their own arrangements. Acquiring knowledge for yourself Talking to your children is something that should happen regularly and consistently.
In addition, teachers also need to become “friends” who accompany children at this stage, especially paying attention to the words that easily hurt children.
In fact, during communication, many teachers often make “jokes” such as: “Why are you so big but clumsy”, or “Big people have brains like grapes”…
“These statements will make children more self-conscious about differences in body shape and push them into psychological traps,” Dr. Bach said.
need to talk about reproductive health
Dr. Do Minh Loan, head of the Department of Adolescent Health at the National Children’s Hospital, also believes that puberty, aged 11 to 18, is the period of strongest development in terms of psychology, physiology and health needs. Sexuality.
“During this period, girls need to prepare for their first menstruation and boys need to understand about ejaculation.
Sex education is particularly important and reproductive health education needs to be addressed.
Parents should not let their children learn about gender and sexuality through social networks, or even verbally from friends because children may learn wrong knowledge and develop misleading behavior.
Education about reproductive health is not just about banning this or that, but we need to explain and convince so that children can understand the real nature of emotional relationships, which will help children adopt the right attitude. The right attitude and behaviour, understanding and responsibility for your decisions,” shared Dr Lone.
Focus on teaching children at every level
Dr. Hong Bach said: “Parents should not think that they should be taught only when they reach puberty or adulthood. Let’s create a “corridor of discipline” for children from an early age, so that they can day- May we get better every day.”
For children between the age of 3 to 6 years, this is the stage of developing linguistic thinking, children always have curious questions about many things in their mind. The age of 7 to 12 is considered the “golden” time for teaching discipline and morality to children.
Entering the age period of 13 to 15 is considered to be two years of sudden increase in personal psychological development and gender definition for children. At this time, children often want to express their views strongly. If parents do not fully understand, they will think that their children are “rebellious”.
If parents do not understand their child’s psychology, they will lose respect, lose the relationship, and even lose the child. Children may argue, sabotage and engage in extremely harmful behavior with their parents. At this age, if parents recognize their child’s instabilities and bring them back to normal, the child will develop very well.
But if detected and not properly intervened, the child will slip and be harmed. Parents should never lose connection with their children when they are in this stage. Befriend your child and listen to what he has to say, accept what is wrong and what is right.
Dr. Bach said, “Befriending children is a delicate matter; we must put ourselves in the position of our children at every age.”
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