Mother is beautiful, gentle, very well spoken, father is very good in economics and always devoted to his children. However, their 18-year-old first son prefers only sleeping and drinking coffee to chatting with friends. This is the story of a family living in District 1 of Ho Chi Minh City.
A boy named VQH said, “I don’t have any dreams. I don’t even know what I should study? Maybe it’s because life is too busy. My family has three front-facing houses in District 1. One in I live, I give out the remaining 2 on rent… There is a maid to do everything from food to ironing and cleaning in the house. Honestly, I like sleeping and playing games the most.
Many mothers complain on learning forums like “Oh, people work so hard, but my child still refuses to study”. Many children today, even though their families send them to school from one teacher to another, do not want to learn and do not know what to study?
Ms Pten, 42, who lives in District 10, lamented that in the past, in her hometown, she had to walk several kilometers to school. Rain or shine, he had to go alone because his family was poor, his parents had many children, and they lived in rural areas. In those days, friends of the same age often went to school alone. Still I always like going to school, there are very few story books there so I find it very valuable to borrow any book, reading every word…
Now her daughter is in 8th grade at a public school in a luxury apartment building. Her parents are very attentive, take care of her, and serve her food diligently, but she doesn’t like studying, nor does she study hard. Works hard. try hard.
Ms. Ann is very worried because she knows that if her child continues to be born like this, it will be very difficult for her to support herself, let alone contribute to society.
Ngo Xuan Diep, a psychologist at the Department of Psychology of the University of Social Sciences and Humanities of Ho Chi Minh City, analyzed that many parents have raised their children too much, too much, and the children neither want nor speak. What was there?
“Eating is a human instinct. If you are hungry, you will eat, and even if you eat, it will taste better, but we also deprive children of the right to eat. Children who are not hungry or do not eat Want. Forced by your parents.” Eat one dish after another.
The same applies to children’s education, many parents have very high expectations from their children, not knowing where their children’s real abilities are, what they want, but they just want them to fulfill their wishes. Follow and fulfill your dreams. incomplete.
Many parents arrange for their children to study in this school or that school while the child feels tired, even bored, but does not dare to say anything.
According to psychologist Ngo Juan Diep, “Every parent loves their child and wants the best for their child, but they also have to watch how they care for and love their child. Only bright love is ” Only love can help children grow well, but blind love can also “harm” the child.
This expert advises parents not to be too protective, but depending on the child’s age, let the child do what he can do, and even delegate more work, so that Create conditions for the child to become more and more independent., many learned skills.
You will be surprised by your child’s abilities
Ms. NTL, 38 years old, works for a foreign company in District 1, has a high income, and has a daughter in 5th grade. When she was young, he gave her work. By now, her child knows how to get up early to make breakfast for the whole family, even if it’s just omelettes and bread, clean the house, wash dishes, cook rice, take out the trash…
He said that no one in the society gives them anything for free and their child should also understand that he should try to study and work so that in future he can get what he wants. They only let me learn more art subjects like drawing, piano, dance… If I want to study, how many months do I have to do well at home before my mother can register me for the subject I want?
Ms L. Said that in her family she is a mother who loves her children very much but is a “difficult” mother. “Tough” means that she always expects her children to work, practice sports, be diligent in their studies, and not be afraid of difficulties or pain…
During her journey of parenting, Ms. L. found that children have many abilities that mothers often do not fully appreciate. Therefore, parents should confidently let their children do this, and they will be surprised at their children’s abilities.
Only diligent practice and daily effort will help children to self-study and achieve the desired results. That is the starting point of the journey to create goals and dreams beyond. To build such a long road, each brick and stone is added slowly.