When mother and child were packing together, she noticed obvious white stretch marks on both sides of her thighs while she was wearing shorts. “Why do you have stretch marks on your thighs when you are so small? Worry about losing weight, because your big thighs are very ugly.”
Exercise requires commitment
During his school years, apart from being hyperactive, his parents were very concerned about his physical shape.
In third grade, he was bullied every day because he was fat.
Her parents were concerned that she might become obese because, in addition to the fact that she was a girl, such a child was more likely to get worse if she got sick. With the encouragement and determination of the entire family, he practiced jumping rope and climbing up and down stairs without stopping, regaining his body balance.
But now there are no words of consolation here. He should be responsible for his own body. From then on, every day my mother would stare at me and warn: “Eat less, control your mouth.”
At that time, social networks were full of fitness training programs, trainers, celebrities and even friends were going crazy with photos showing their toned abs before and after training.
So he downloaded a lot of workout clips, and started the first exercises, but it didn’t work. This goes back to childhood exercises – jumping rope, going up and down stairs and even swimming. Every time after a crazy workout session, he asks his mother: Have I lost weight, have I become skinny? But I’m all smiles, baby.
Parents constantly remind him: “No matter what exercise you do, remember that you exercise for the purpose of maintaining health. Exercise requires commitment. Practicing like crazy and then giving up No.”
But he put that aside, he practiced as a way to respond to negative words from people around him about his appearance.
Concern about appearance in middle age
Compared to other women, her mother does not have to experience fear about her “postpartum body”. Mom always looks slim and youthful in a floral shirt or tight-fitting office dress.
One day, when he asked her to zip up the back of her dress, his mother was a little disappointed when he said he couldn’t pull it all the way.
On the occasion of the discount, my mother went to buy some dresses to wear to sell medicine, and came back to wear them for the whole family to see. The younger son slyly pressed his mother’s belly and said, “Mother’s belly is like a pregnant belly.”
The mother scolded the “little devil” and couldn’t help feeling sad. While wearing pants reawakens the glow that seems less tight and the body gradually “meets up to standards”, some people begin to worry about appearance and many other concerns at the time of menopause.
Mother started asking her: “Mom has become very fat now, what should I do?” He said: “Why don’t you practice like me, practice slowly and then lose weight?”
Once, my mother picked up the only sports bra and said: “Every day I will wear this shirt and swimming trunks to go up and down the stairs twice.” “If you do this, it will take a long time for you to stop getting fat.”
“But you are still young, you have more strength than me, understand?” He was silent, constantly accusing his mother of lacking knowledge and being lazy. He forgot that first of all, he had also given his body time to get used to the heavy intensity.
When she began working part-time and doing clinical practice at the hospital, she became aware of her mother’s fatigue.
He started practicing again with his favorite coach. And he realizes that just one daily effort, no matter how small, is worth it. Around him, his aunt and uncle suffered from osteoarthritis so much that they could only walk a few steps, and sometimes had to undergo surgery to walk normally. But he more or less tried to swim or walk lightly.
Fortunately, her mother also gradually changed, and is gradually on the road to improving her health. Mom also gradually accepts her body and is happy after exercising each day.