From left: Bui Thi Minh Ngoc, Luong Bao Chau, Le Hai Yen – Photo: NVCC
However, there were three girls who met without any appointment when they went to learn and deeply study this story, which is quite “discriminatory” against women.
They are Le Hai Yen – 8th Generation Girl, Bui Thi Minh Ngoc – 9th Generation and Luong Bao Chau, the youngest sister of Generation Z.
Bui Thi Minh NGOC
going against tradition
As a senior, fate brought Hai Yen into this job after a health coaching course in New York (USA). In the content shared, the lecturer invited a sex coach to share.
Hai Yen just realized this profession existed. The subject was fascinating enough, Yen signed up for an intensive class for six months.
Born in a traditional family, sex is almost taboo and not mentioned. Should you become a sex coach, Hai Yen is going against the entire family, so you share your work primarily with the community, while keeping a certain distance from your family on the subject.
Bao Chau is no better when he admits that he grew up in a family with many strict concepts. Chau said that she had her first boyfriend when she was 16 years old. Her mother told her not to have an unwanted pregnancy but did not tell her what to do.
“Like many other young people, I don’t have the knowledge, and society is still prejudiced against sexual issues.
I did projects to normalize the conversation about sex, then learned how to become a sex coach,” Chou says of why you want to do this work.
Minh Ngoc’s family is no different when it comes to putting standards first. Luckily, her family trusted her so Ngoc didn’t face too many problems in becoming a sex coach.
Although familiar with community projects, only Bao Chau has a related project when he founded the LetstockSexuality community to normalize the topic of sexuality.
While Minh Ngoc founded the Green Lady Vietnam project, creating a wave of cloth sanitary napkin use related to environmental protection.
Hai Yen founded the “Borrowing Library” to connect people to share personal stories toward humanitarian meaning, inspired by the project of the same name in Denmark.
Learning about sex coaching, Ngoc created the Intivibe project with free workshops on stories revolving around intimate topics for couples.
Hai Yen organizes sex education sessions for parents of teenage children. And Bao Chau also did a program about sexual health of youth.
take yen
there must be limits
What does a sex coach do? A question that all three girls got many times. Being wives and mothers, she sees many couples struggling with issues related to sexual and reproductive health, such as lack of adjustment, lack of acceptance of their bodies, psychological obsession…
According to Chau, in some ways this job helps people overcome difficulties and improve the quality of their sex lives. With the client’s partnership, the coach asks questions and shares to help them find answers to achieve their desired goals.
It takes time for each of you to fully learn the basic knowledge of sex coaching and practice coaching from the many sexuality organizations in the US: American Association of Sexuality Educators, American Association of Sexuality Educators, American Board of Sexology.
The majority of students in American courses are women from the US, Europe and Australia. There are almost no or very few Asian students, sometimes there are some Singaporeans, Malaysians, Hong Kongers…
And most of the customers are also women. Sometimes they are also men, but most of them come with the impression that sex coaches are not good services. So sometimes being asked biased questions and even being insulted is something you also encounter when sharing this topic with the community.
Sometimes when Ngoc is judged with offensive words, she learns how to remain calm and clearly state that the person speaking is harassing. Hai Yen confirmed that the coach only asks questions to suggest guidelines, does not share personal sex life details at all as evidence for the client, and does not model it with the client.
What if the story becomes sensitive and misses the mark? Hai Yen said, “I decided to refund the costs and stop the coaching trip.”
According to Bao Chau, setting boundaries is very important. Bao Chau said, “I once streamed a sharing session and I was attacked with very rude words. Thanks to this, I learned to realize when I am being harassed and actively interact.” Stopped.”
Hope to share more openly
Recalling a previous visit, all three girls said that “making way” in the sex coaching field was not easy but was worth the experience.
Sharing the same desire to reach out to the community, Yen, Ngoc and Chau hope that these first steps will one day make sexual stories no longer a “forbidden garden”, but rather gently and openly welcomed. More open.
All three girls said that learning and doing this helps them to respect diversity, differences, and to be somewhat more tolerant of themselves and others. Being at the forefront of learning new knowledge helps you feel excited and work harder to bring more value to the community.
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