Young people expressed their feelings to each other very early – Photo: Thuy Duong
NTL (18 years old, lives in District 4, Ho Chi Minh City), who has a handsome face, a slim physique and a gentle, graceful way of speaking, proudly shows his friends “what I’ve been through… 19 Love Does”.
Dear kids soon!
My first love was a boy from middle school. At the time, TL was in sixth grade and her “boyfriend” was a boy studying in eighth grade in the same school.
This boy actively wrote a letter, praising little L for being handsome and likable, and actively gave this letter to L during a recess. After recess, “dates” and conversations took place. On that occasion, L’s parents bought him a phone so that his family could communicate easily. The phone messages became “carrier pigeons” for the two students. l. The decline in school began. Then, by chance, L’s mother discovers the repeated love messages.
L’s mother started to refuse… because she felt that L was too young to fall in love that quickly. After watching for a while, both of them felt tired and bored. So L’s “first love” is over!
The second love happened at the end of sixth grade with a classmate. One day around the summer holidays, her boyfriend said he wanted to meet L alone. After that, he L. Offered to pursue. L did not deny. So sometimes he Started bringing snacks, and sometimes he would buy water from the canteen during holidays. Also go on dates, hold hands… during vacation…
This love affair continued till the beginning of seventh grade…
Just like that, every school year L had a friend whom he liked, confessed to, accepted, then broke up with…
L said that L had her first kiss with a boy in her class in 9th grade. He was L’s 8th love. That day was the year-end farewell day, both of them were so sad that they invited each other to a corner of the courtyard. School. And suddenly L started crying, L’s lover embraced L in his arms and thus they both swore an oath to each other. In 10th grade, we were still in touch, but because we went to two different schools and our schedules were busy, our messages became less frequent. Both remained so far away.
10th grade, new school, new friends, L. Has a series of new loves. Just love quickly and end quickly just like that. They also call each other “wife, husband, husband” as is customary, but only for a short period of time “the wife goes her own way”, “the husband may have a new girlfriend”…
In the middle of 12th grade, L agreed to have a crush on a friend from another school, but she lived in the same building as L’s apartment, L said. This love affair lasted for the longest time, for 6 months. However, this boyfriend has just been sent by his family to America to study abroad, so he has no idea what the coming days will bring.
L’s mother shared: “In addition to worrying about your children’s health and education, your children’s love life is also very worrying now. You have quick emotions, use the words “love passionately” , whoever they love, they post publicly on Facebook that they are dating this person or that person, even posting photos of the two of them… however, only for a short period of time In, there’s nothing left to do quickly.”
In L’s mother’s time, almost everyone knew the saying “There is only one love, and there are countless things similar to love”, but in your time, there is a trend of “love early, love early”. Heck, I’m afraid I won’t even recognize what love is and what is “like love.” “But if you fall in love so quickly, how will you live when you get married? Do you want to go away so soon…?” – L’s mother is worried.
difficult to monitor
Ms. NVH (49 years old, lives in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) said that she is the parent president of the 10th grade class of a well-known private school in Ho Chi Minh City. Recently, she and a parent from the class took it upon themselves to take their children’s class outside. When she took her children to the beach, she was surprised to see that there were four “couples” in her children’s class who were very much in love with each other. Even though she and other parents were present, the children sat on each other’s laps watching the movie without the slightest embarrassment.
Ever since she found out there were four couples in the class, Ms. H. was worried. She cannot let these “couples” get close to each other without parental supervision. Contrary to her concerns, these “couples” always find ways to be alone with each other. So, whenever she didn’t see these “couples”, Ms. Sent to different villas nearby, boys and girls are different, but that night Ms. H. almost couldn’t sleep because she was afraid that her children would go out on a date with each other again.
Ms. H. is afraid that if something happens, she won’t know how to tell the children’s parents! After the night passed, the children were soon reunited. Ms. H. watched a “couple” dressed in skimpy clothes lovingly apply sunscreen to each other. No parent can imagine that their children are just 15 years old and in 10th class.
After taking on the responsibility of taking her children’s class out, Ms. H. was so tired, stressed, and anxious that she said “she would never dare to take on this responsibility again”.
What should parents do?
Ms. NTV (45 years old, lives in Phu Nuan District, Ho Chi Minh City) commented: “Children today are very different from those in our past.” Ms. V. analyzed her time, such as when she graduated from school, it took her about ten years to learn to wear makeup, but now many sixth graders already wear makeup. Before, only very rich families had a TV, now every family has one, and there is also the Internet to get any information of interest to your children. Many children still study abroad at a young age and are exposed to Western culture early, so they are easily influenced by the lifestyle… Therefore, we can take the thinking of the previous generation and teach it to today’s youth. But it cannot be imposed. Hour.
Parents who want to be able to “orient” and “influence” their children need to constantly update current information and spend a lot of time with their children, listening to them and sharing with them. Share with your kids so you can talk to them about love…
According to Ms. V., in this era we should not “make a path for the deer to run”, but rather “need to make it carefully so that the deer knows how to run safely”.
Boys and girls alike should have knowledge and understanding of safe sex practices.
Dr. Ngo Xuan Diep of the Psychology Department of the University of Social Sciences and Humanities of Ho Chi Minh City analyzed that there are many reasons why children fall in love early. These are the kids who don’t go out, just stay at home, go to school and hang out in class, have few friends and very little interaction. When children have no access to the outside world, no amount of outside interest will quickly lead them to love.
Parents do not contact or talk to children much.
In order to limit the situation of children falling in love early, parents should let their children go out more, take them to larger places, and bring them closer to nature.
Parents also put down their phones, sit closer to their children and spend more time talking to them.
Parents arrange for children to have time to play and practice sports, and at the same time feed them healthy food, food without stimulants and growth substances, and give them enough sleep…
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