The father was very surprised at his daughter’s expression because he usually bathes her daughter. Later, he learned that in a small conversation about “sex education”, the mother told her daughter: “You are a girl, so you must not let other men touch your body. mine”.
After the video went viral on social media, it sparked heated discussions. Some people think that parents should educate their children about sex as soon as possible. However, there are also some opinions that it is too early to teach children sex education at the age of 2. So, at what age should parents teach sex education to their children?
From what age should parents teach sex education to their children?
In fact, there is no exact age standard for sex education for children. However, most educational experts, psychologists – medical experts encourage parents to start teaching children about sex differences between the ages of 2 and 3 years old.
The reason is that according to the laws of children’s psychological development, children will gradually form a gender awareness when they are 2-3 years old and will correctly use the name “boy” or “girl” when they are 3 years old. At this point, parents should educate their children about the basic sex differences.
However, many parents are still afraid of teaching sex education to their children. According to a special survey on the topic of “Sex education for students” conducted by the “China Education News” newspaper, of the nearly 6,000 parents who participated in the survey, 41% said that they had never had sex before. sex education for their children.
According to statistics from the Child Protection Fund under the China Children’s Culture and Arts Foundation: In 2021, China had 223 cases of child sexual abuse exposed and more than 569 children became victims. in which the youngest child is 2 years old.
Therefore, parents should not be subjective and think that it is not necessary to teach sex education to children too early. As soon as children can recognize the difference in gender, parents can begin to teach appropriate sex education knowledge to children.
Illustration: As soon as children can recognize the difference in gender, parents can start teaching appropriate sex education knowledge to children.
Sex education for children – what should parents pay attention to?
When teaching sex education to children, parents need to indicate complete, specific and age-appropriate information so that children have a clear sense of how to protect themselves. Parents can point out specific situations to make it easier for children to visualize. For example, the following 4 situations:
– When a stranger looks at your child’s private parts or asks them to look into their private parts.
– When strangers talk to your child about private parts.
– When a stranger wants to touch your child’s private parts or asks them to touch their private parts.
– When a stranger asks you to go alone to another place with them.
Parents need to teach their children that when they meet these 4 cases, they need to directly refuse and run to find help as soon as possible.
In addition, there are also cases where children are abused by acquaintances but do not tell their parents because the abuser asks to keep it a secret. This can affect the psychology and development of the child.
To prevent this problem, parents first need to teach their children to distinguish between real secrets and fake secrets. Parents need to show their children that if “keeping a secret” makes them feel worried, upset, scared or sad, it’s not a “secret” at all, and they should tell the people they don’t know. children trust eg parents, teachers,…
Besides, parents also need to help children make a list of trusted people (at least two people) so that children can share all secrets with trusted people when necessary.
Sex education for children should not be too extreme or one-sided. Before children have gender awareness, a father bathing a daughter or a mother bathing a son is a sign of harmony in the family and helps to strengthen the parent-child relationship.
As children get older and become more sexually conscious or can bathe themselves independently, parents should not force them to bathe together if they don’t want to. At this time, parents need to gradually reduce intimacy with their children. For example, do not bathe the child, limit kissing on the child’s mouth, and do not change clothes in front of the child.
Sex education for children should be carried out in accordance with each stage of the child’s development. As recommended by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), different age groups have different sex education goals. As follows:
1. Babies and toddlers
At this age, parents need to choose the right name for their child’s body parts. At the same time, parents can teach their children that they should dress or cover sensitive parts and who can change their clothes.
2. Before 5 years old
Parents let their children learn the names and functions of body parts. Parents can show their children the difference in gender between men and women, thereby helping them understand that men’s and women’s bodies are not exactly the same.
At this age, parents can also teach their children how to protect their own personal space, such as closing the door in the shower and knocking before entering someone else’s room.
Introduce children to the basics of pregnancy and childbirth, using animals as examples but without going into details. For example, babies are born from the womb or show children how animals get pregnant or give birth.
3. From 5-8 years old
Introduce some general terms about reproductive organs and help children understand the function and structure of the parts. Introduction about adolescence for children, but it should be noted that when educating children about sex at this age, it is absolutely not advisable to use sensitive images that are not suitable for their age.
Teach children how to refuse other people’s touch or access to private parts. Let your child learn about different emotions such as love, friendship, and family.
4. From 9 to 13 years old
Parents can distill more in-depth gender knowledge to teach their children.
5. From 14 – 18 years old
At this stage, children are basically aware of issues about gender, moral sense and how to control their own impulses.
6. After the age of 18
When children enter adulthood, parents can teach their children more about reproductive safety knowledge so that they can protect themselves.
Source: Baijiahao, Sohu