There are “teachers without chalk”, that is, parents and children in each family. Family is the “first school” and parents are the children’s first teachers. Each of their words and actions will have an important influence on the construction and development of the child’s character.
Children’s ability to imitate is extremely strong. Parents have good behavior habits, children will also develop good habits and behaviors and vice versa. Looking at a child’s behavior, we can see a part of that family culture.
From the experience of many families whose children have passed the entrance exam to Bei Dai University – Tsinghua – the leading universities in China and Asia, people draw conclusions: The success of the child is largely is due to the upbringing of parents from an early age. In particular, when children are between the ages of 5-15 years old, if they learn these four things, they will positively affect their later life.
Firstly, about the meal
It is not difficult to see the image of parents chasing their children, begging and threatening to feed each spoonful of food. But from an early age, learning to let your child eat alone compared to feeding, is much more beneficial. When self-feeding, children can judge by themselves whether they are full or not, and learn to chew well and swallow slowly by themselves. In the process of eating, you will also learn how to better coordinate your hands, mouth, and brain.
Regarding food, even if children like it, they should not indulge their children in eating meat as much as possible, because meat is high in fat, which is not good for intellectual development. Instead, children should eat more vegetables and fruits, avoid eating too much junk food. Children who develop well physically can have energy to study and play. If nutrition is not ensured, children are deficient in nutrients, children have reduced resistance, children are susceptible to diseases, fatigue, lack of concentration, greatly affecting learning.
Second, in terms of health
Studies have shown that an early and regular sleep helps to increase height for children. In addition, young children who go to bed early also receive a number of other benefits such as improved concentration, learning, memory enhancement, and physical and psychological health promotion. Do not force your child to study day and night, instead plan to study and have reasonable breaks so that children can go to bed early and wake up early.
Encourage your child to exercise to increase endurance. Let your child regularly participate in outdoor activities, limit mobile phones, watch TV…
Third, in terms of etiquette
A person with good qualities can not be formed overnight. This is a process accumulated from a young age by developing good habits, learning manners, politeness. For example, when eating do not talk, mouth does not make sounds, do not quarrel; When you go to someone else’s house as a guest, you can’t take things at will; When people help you have to know how to say thank you.
Do not point or stare at others; Respect the elders; Attentive and kind to people with disabilities; Out of toilet paper, please replace the following user yourself; When there is a mistake do not blame others, admit failure and mistakes yourself; When you want to pass someone, go around behind them; When bumping into someone must apologize first.
When you want to borrow something, ask for permission, and wait for other people to agree to be allowed to use it; If you see something falling on the floor, pick it up by yourself; Listen quietly when others speak, and look them in the eye when they speak…
These are basic etiquette and good habits children need to form from an early age.
Fourth, responsibility and integrity
Many children think that the world is responsible for doing everything for them. And the consequence is that a child who is irresponsible to himself when he grows up can hardly become a useful person for society.
Cultivate children’s sense of responsibility from an early age, let them learn what they may have to do on their own. Encourage your child to wash his or her own hands, wash his face before eating, prepare his own clothes and books for school, make his own bed, tidy up the study corner, and tidy toys. Children must do so voluntarily and effectively. From there, children form a sense of responsibility for big things in the future.
Homework must be completed within the allotted, non-extended time to help children have an effective time concept.
An important thing when teaching children about responsibility is that parents must set an example for their children about taking responsibility for everything. Never teach children things that parents themselves cannot do.
When assigning tasks to children, care should be taken not to assign tasks beyond the child’s ability. If necessary, parents can break big tasks into small ones and guide children in specific ways.
A child only matures when he is responsible for himself. Then there’s the responsibility to your family. Responsibility to family members, and responsibility to the community in which we live to have a better and kinder society.