How to PREPARE and DISCRIMINATE children effectively? After 8 years, the English teacher in Hanoi has drawn a series of very useful experiences that anyone can apply

“Children are like gas cylinders and have no brakes because they don’t think about the consequences”Allan Beane, an American child behavior expert, said. Therefore, there must be a system of child discipline. At the same time, when adults want children to often obey and do good deeds, adults can apply a popular strategy of reward. This encourages positive behavior modification.

However, how to apply rewards and discipline effectively without affecting children’s self-esteem and development is the question of many parents or teachers.

After an 8-year journey of teaching English, trying different ways to motivate and discipline the class without making you feel isolated/uncomfortable in practice; Finally, teacher Nhung Rosie Nguyen (Hanoi) also found a way that she thought was “best” by applying the theory of “sticks and carrots”.

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Teacher Nhung Rosie Nguyen (Hanoi).

The specific reward and discipline applied by the teacher is as follows:


According to Ms. Nhung, there are many controversies in this reward, which is a topic that consumes a lot of ink for psychologists, even the IELTS test about the pros and cons of rewarding. Some people think that, when they get used to being rewarded for a long time, the “carrot” must get bigger and sweeter, that if the first time you awarded a gift worth 50k, the next time it must be delicious and expensive. Only then can I stay interested. An opposing view is that when rewarding in class, it will lead to a strong competitive mentality in them.

For Ms. Nhung, the right reward will create just enough competition to motivate and motivate, and I will be accompanied by conveying a certain moral message to optimize. At this time, the carrot is not necessarily bigger, just different, grasping the recipient’s psychology.

In the past, Ms. Nhung used star rewards in class, like many other teachers, to praise each individual (write your name on the board). At this time, the competitiveness in each of you will be high, not caring about others, just want to win and lose, even lead to envy and discomfort when you succeed (this is extremely dangerous in the long run because it feeds you). nurture the “yard” seed).

Then after a while, she switched to using a hierarchical scale, those who performed well (both knowledge and attitude) would be upgraded, those who violated the class rules would be downgraded. This method seems good at first, but later on, you have less excitement (especially those in 3rd grade or above or you are excellent in class) because there are only 4-5 ranks and if you go up When you’re at the top, even if you’re better, you won’t be able to rank up, leading to less motivation for you to strive when you’ve done well.

How to PREPARE and DISCRIMINATE children effectively?  After 8 years, an English teacher in Hanoi has drawn a series of very useful experiences that anyone can apply - Photo 2.

A few months ago, she applied rewards with a diamond jar, and noticed that the students were very interested even in high school. The way to do that is to have a bag of diamonds and an empty jar. If the large class can still divide the nest, the small class in the center is not needed. Every time a friend/team responds well or takes good discipline, a diamond will be put into the jar (the sound when the diamond collides with the glass jar also makes you feel excited). .

At this time, the whole class will raise their hands to the team/you who have earned the diamond for the class and say “Thank you”. This is the teacher inserting lessons about gratitude into each lesson, cultivating good seeds in children. You can also apply the ancient Hawaiian happiness mantra, Ho’oponopono, by having the whole class say “Thank you. I love you”.

In addition to the collective reward, to motivate the good and excellent students to get more attention, she will give stamps or stickers to the 3 best performers in each class. Accumulate 10/20 marks will be exchanged for the corresponding value.

Every time a friend/team doesn’t discipline well, she will take one out. When this is also applied Ho’oponopono, that person will say “I’m sorry. Please forgive me” (depending on the level of the class, I can say 2 full sentences or cut out more difficult sentences). So a lesson about responsibility and apology is also included in every class.

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The photos of the ranking ladder for the class were taken by Ms. Nhung.

When the whole jar is full of diamonds, the whole class will be rewarded (the reward is agreed upon by her and the whole class, of course she will have a way of talking to guide in the most reasonable way for both parties – a breaking phase). drive from the teacher). This way, your children will learn to be responsible for themselves and for the whole class, without affecting you. “Having happiness together, suffering together”.


There are a few rules in her class:

1. Sit nicely.

2. Speak English only.

3. Don’t touch your friends.

4. Don’t touch the toys (Do not touch the toys).

5. Don’t shout.

6. Listen to Ms. Rosie and friends (Listen to Ms. Rosie and friends).

To reach these agreements, perhaps teachers and parents can guide them by using cause-and-effect questions so that the children can see its reasonableness and come to a consensus. The big class can let the children think on their own, in the small class, she can speak first and ask if you agree.

Ms. Nhung thinks thatIn fact, for children, the gift is only a part, the “recognition” of teachers/parents in a timely manner, at the right time when you have progress/beautiful behavior is what you really need. Sometimes words of encouragement, recognition of your child in front of the class/crowd are enough to make them happy and motivated all week. Parents and children at home can also apply this method if there are one or more children in the same family so that siblings can love and help each other.

Besides, discipline will be the most standard when discussed and brought to agreement from both sides (teachers/parents and children). This is also a small factor that parents / teachers often forget – “impressing children”. Sometimes adults just think that they make rules and students/children have to follow them.

However, when parents / teachers practice respecting children’s opinions, children are also being educated about this and forming this character when dealing with others in life. Listening to your child’s point of view is also an opportunity to understand him or her, so cherish it. Explain to your child why we need classroom/family rules.

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