Important lessons parents should teach their children from a young age

Expert – doctor Anh Nguyen, Senior Member of the British Association of Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT) said:

A recent report by the YMCA, USA, which studied over 10,000 families, found that 75% of what is needed for a child’s success and happiness comes from their own family. Indeed, family has a huge influence on one’s success and happiness. So what lessons should children be taught from within their families and it will be better if children are taught from a young age?

1. Being taught to always be grateful for what children have

Toys, books, stuffed animals … are almost every child in the family today.

They don’t yet understand that they need to be grateful for these things, nor do they know that many other friends may be struggling more. To teach the lesson of gratitude, children need to be taught about living “just enough”, rather than always having plenty. When children have just enough life, they will realize the value of each thing they have and when they look at others, they will feel grateful when they have it.

2. Honesty

No child is born knowing how to lie. In fact, they learn to say exactly what they see. Lying is a learned behavior from the outside environment. There are two types of environments that can influence children’s lying behavior: long-term influences (from their parents) and short-term environments (from friends, idols, siblings, etc.). With a short-term environment, children learn to express themselves to that environment, but then give up when they move into another environment. However, with the long-term environment from parents, seemingly innocuous lies such as breaking promises or telling for fun have long-term effects on children.

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Parents should accompany their children in activities.

3. Don’t judge others

Instead of judging someone, children should be taught to focus on self-development. Therefore, when children accidentally say judgments like ”this guy is too fat”, ”she’s too ugly mom”… in fact, the child doesn’t understand that it’s not right, now you just simply simply say “I don’t know, and I don’t judge anyone either”. When talking to your child, you should not compare your child with anyone, but only focus on what you want the child to be better off.

4. Learn about failure and admit it

In fact, defeat and victory are two sides of the same coin, inseparable. Children often do not know the feeling of defeat, but only the joy of victory. This makes it easier for children to understand that failure is something terrible. In fact, failure is a part of any activity, it can happen even with the best planning.

How can children cope with it when you did not prepare them to understand this feeling before. A good child is a child who understands victory as well as knows how to face failure. Therefore, when playing with children, do not create fake victories, or make it easy just for the child to win or to have fun. It does not create a good child, but only creates a class of children who are aggressive but afraid of failure.

Teaching children to accept failure as well as to admit their own weaknesses or mistakes is the right way to educate about fairness.

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Being taught these things by parents from a young age will help children have more confidence and maturity.

5. Listen before you speak

Harsh words to children are an example for children to learn about the weakness in our listening ability as adults. When children grow up, they will use this way to communicate with others. But, on the contrary, from a young age, you always respect and listen to children before speaking or making decisions, then children will learn to listen to you and others when they are older.

When children communicate with parents, siblings or friends, they talk or yell at them, you should say to them ”Bin, I want to hear Na, can you be quiet?”. It seems that such interventions are not important, why can’t children, but in fact, it is valuable for children to understand that everyone has the right to speak and be heard by everyone. It is very difficult to teach children this when they are older, especially when they think that “everyone has to listen to me”, but in life, whoever says the right thing will be heard. And people who always talk but do not know how to listen, what they say is not necessarily true.

6. Know how to take care of yourself

Few say this is a lesson that should be taught to children early, but it is an important lesson. When children are unfortunately sick, as parents, we frantically take care of them from buying medicine, cooking porridge, luring them to eat, drink milk… but actually, one way to teach children is to help them realize that ‘ ‘needs to take care of themselves” rather than just one-way from the caregiver (for example, here the parent).

A child growing up in shelter is like raising sheep surrounded by a fence, they very much lack the skills they need to take care of themselves because they think the fence can keep them out of any danger. The sheep leaned against the fence, losing their vigilance to small noises like the wolf’s footsteps. But, one day, if the fence is broken or missing, they will not realize the wolf has come to their side.

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Children should learn to take care of themselves from an early age.

No one knows what will happen to the child and parents can’t always be a strong fence, only 1 important thing is that the child must always be strong and have enough self-care skills. When children are sick, it doesn’t mean they just lie there watching TV, Ipad to be taken care of, but instead give them the opportunity to exercise, play, take part in self-care such as getting their own water to drink, take orange peeled mother to eat, self-report to mother when feeling less tired, …

Children need to be shown that they also have a role to play, rather than just sitting still to receive care from others. If taught from a young age, when they grow up, children will thank you for these lessons that have helped a lot in their life and future.

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