Recently, people discovered a very strange phenomenon. That is the fact that a part of young people is too focused on expressing their own personality without paying attention to the relationship with leaders and colleagues.
When they encounter something that is not their own way, they have to argue, “over lose” to be equal. This approach provides a temporary sense of euphoria, but is certainly not the wisest approach.
It is true that there are many leaders who lack responsibility, bring personal feelings to work, do not manage fairly, but we must understand that the work environment has no place for “individualism”. Anything that requires a strong team is easy to achieve.
So, if you find yourself in an unacceptable situation, contrary to your work rules and personal ethics, you definitely need to “quit your shirt” immediately. But if that’s not the case, it’s incredibly important to build harmonious relationships with leaders and colleagues, no matter what type of company it is.
For a person who is good at communicating, having a high emotional index, they often list the following 4 “words of mouth” as taboo things. If you are often speaking out at work, you need to change it soon lest you easily offend people around you.
01. “It’s not me” – Always make excuses
This is a big taboo in the workplace. Leaders are often more concerned with results than taking the time to hear reasons. In particular, if it is subjective reasons, excuses for themselves, they are even more dissatisfied.
For example, when a leader criticizes you for something, they themselves are very angry because the work results do not go according to the original orientation, but you constantly give excuses and blame. error without any constructive comments. Isn’t this “adding fuel to the fire”?
At the same time, excuses also affect your image in the eyes of your superiors. If you can’t solve a personal problem on your own, causing it to have a negative impact on your work, how can you take on great responsibility?
The right way to do this is for leaders to speak up, listen carefully, do not make excuses and do not shirk responsibility. If it’s your fault, think about it and suggest how to fix it. If it’s not your fault, find a separate opportunity with the leader to report back, the words must be concise and concise.
This approach will not offend the boss, nor will it blame others. This is the correct approach.
02. “I heard…” – Accidentally or intentionally causing collective disunity
Put yourself in a leadership position, if you are leading a team but one member of it constantly says things that are divisive, causing everyone on the team to hate and fight with each other. Do you feel happy or not?
The answer is of course “No”. That character was also immediately listed in the “black list” in the heart of the leader.
In any company, the strength of the team can only be fully revealed when everyone is united. If a link has a problem, it will be the link that needs to be replaced immediately. Otherwise, they will all lose their strength, become worn out and rusty.
The new effective teamwork spirit helps everyone to overcome all difficulties and obstacles, especially for a company and a team. Therefore, if you always say things that are detrimental to unity and demoralize the community, you are definitely silently “losing points” in the hearts of your superiors.
03. “It’s good to tell this…” – Gossip
Office workers should remember: Do not judge behind your back, do not participate in bad-mouthing. This is not to protect others, but to protect yourself. Because when you participate in “gossip” conversations, you create a weakness for yourself, and at the same time let everyone around you know about that weakness.
One day, the words that you say will be spread everywhere, reaching the ears of colleagues, leaders, and even the object of being slandered. When they know you are the “author” of these stories, what will they think of you?
The result is definitely something that no one wants. Therefore, manage what you say so that you do not have to regret it later. Don’t turn the sentence into a weapon to hurt others, also harm yourself.
04. “Ah… well… that’s… but…” – Long, illogical speech
In the workplace, not only is your job a reflection of your abilities, but your communication skills are also a way for people to judge. Especially with leadership, work communication must be focused, logically clear and concise in language.
This is a necessary and extremely important skill. If you do a good job but don’t know how to report, it will greatly affect your development, and you will be disadvantaged.
When leaders have taken the time to listen and you don’t perform well, the opportunity will fly out of hand. Your superiors also do not leave any special impression on you. Even those who are difficult, they will judge you as a person who has the ability to express confusion, thinking without logic.