Many parents believe that hitting their child’s bottom only causes pain, but is not dangerous for the child. However, a psychological study by the University of New Hampshire in 2014 proved otherwise.
Professor Murray Straus and his colleagues studied 7,000 families in the United States, along with data from 32 other countries, and came to surprising conclusions about the consequences of spanking, spanking, and spanking in children.
Spanking a child’s ass is a common form of punishment in history and in many cultures. Illustration: CNN
Research shows that spanking and spanking in general help children correct bad behavior immediately. These blows weakens the parent-child relationship, increasing the likelihood that the child will grow up to continue hitting the child, partner, or even resorting to violence against the parent himself.
More seriously, frequent spanking is also associated with delayed cognitive development in children, increased anti-social behaviors such as criminality, impulsivity, aggression, disregard for others, and lack of ability. empathetic.
It is physical pain that stimulates these mental instability in children later on. Artwork: Today
Payal Kohli, a medical doctor at the University of Colorado, shows that these behaviors alone can make them more aggressive. One group of seven-year-olds was shown a video of a spanking, while the other group watched a video of a non-violent punishment. As a result, when exposed to a dog, the group of children who watched the violent video showed significantly more aggression.
“As of 2014, more than 20 countries have banned mothers from beating children. Not being spanked by parents should be a basic right for children.” Professor Murray Straus said.
Spanking may cause children to comply immediately, but in the long run, children will not be able to improve. Especially when children are beaten without knowing what they did wrong and what to do next time.
Instead of spanking, parents should…
Establishing positive discipline with non-violent punishment is what the American Academy of Pediatrics encourages. In fact, these punishments are equally effective as whips.
1. Explain and model:
Parents should teach children to know right from wrong with calm words and actions. Parents should pay attention to comply with the same rules and requirements that they set out to be a role model for their children. For example, instead of reminding your child to “hello, baby”, why don’t parents say hello first so that the child can follow?
There are plenty of punishments that are safe for a child’s mental health. Illustration: Positive Parenting Solutions
2. Let your child bear the consequences
Parents should not always intervene and punish their children for bad actions. Parents should sometimes let their children experience the consequences of these actions for themselves, as long as they are not dangerous.
For example, if a child intentionally drops food, he or she will no longer have food. If a child throws away toys, he will soon have no toys if parents don’t buy new ones. Soon, your baby will learn to appreciate food and be more careful with his toys.
3. Detention penalty
This tool is especially relevant when a child commits a particular mistake. Parents, remind them of their wrongdoings – briefly and with as little emotion as possible – then confiscate their favorites, ban them from participating in an activity, or stay in their room alone for a while. a short period of time.
Some families should have “punishment boxes” for children to put their favorite toys in the box, not to be played anymore, when they are at fault. This strategy can help children learn self-management skills. When applied, parents must be strict and uncompromising.