Recently, a clip of a marriage proposal suddenly “fevered” the Weibo social network, which has attracted more than 16,000 shares.
Boy kneels and forces girl to agree to be his lover
In a crowded restaurant in the city of Shenzhen, a guy holding a bouquet of roses knelt on the floor to confess to the girl: “You don’t go. If you don’t agree, I won’t stand up.”
The girl’s expression began to become unsightly: “If you do that, how can I agree to this?”.
A second later, the scene that made the audience’s mouth gaping took place. The young man lay on the floor, rolling around shouting: “I agree!”
Many people eating around put down their chopsticks and picked up their phones to record this special scene.
The shy girl looked around, angrily begging: “You want to get up.”
The boy continued to lie on the floor, waving his arms and legs like a child: “If you don’t agree, I won’t stand up. I’ll sleep here tonight.”
The girl replied: “I can’t agree.”
Finally, the young man also sat up, indignant: “Why is it that every time I pursue you, you refuse? What’s wrong with you?”
After that, the boy knelt down on the floor, clasped his hands in prostration, and begged the girl to accept the invitation to be his lover…
The clip became famous because many people sympathized with the girl’s plight.
“Unbelievable. It’s scary just looking at it, let alone the insider like the other sister. Only the mind has problems to agree.”
“This brother is like a child who couldn’t be bought for his favorite toy, so he made himself do it. So many people watching like that don’t know what to be ashamed of.”
In fact, in recent years China has had many cases of public confession or even public marriage proposals.
For example, in the city of Chengdu last April, the girl was confessed to by a boy she did not like in front of many students at the school.
The young man arranged banners, lit candles, and scattered balloons, preparing in a grand manner, attracting many students to come and watch. This made the girl unbearable.
The girl stood like heaven, not knowing how to be in the middle of the crowd. Fortunately, a friend ran to pull her away.
This forced public confession makes the opponent (mostly female) bound in the situation: Being shy in front of the crowd, not daring to refuse definitively, unfortunately, if you do not behave skillfully, you will certainly be criticized.
In fact, this forced one-sided confession is a kind of self-impression.
Like: I stood in front of the crowd to show my love to you, but why did you do this to me. I don’t agree that it doesn’t respect my face.
The mentality of “big children”, childish, uses moral limits to swap concepts, causing others to fall into a passive and awkward position. This type of person does not think about the other person, does not care about other people’s feelings, only cares about themselves.
Giving for others or to satisfy your own vanity is only separated by a thin line
A while ago, on the Chinese internet, there was a trend of “peeling fruit and sending it to a boyfriend far away”. Let’s see how “subtle” these girls are!
Melon seeds and peanuts are separated and put in vacuum bags.
Grapes are peeled, seeded, halved, packed.
Labels are peeled.
Grapefruits, pomegranates, and walnuts are peeled cleanly and put in nice clean bags.
Even more surprising is that dragon fruit and melon are peeled and cut into pieces. Even tangerines are peeled, removed bitter veins, put in sealed vacuum bags.
The girl peeled the fruit so much that her fingers were numb, her shoulders ached, her back hurt, even her freshly made nails were ruined. But she just felt: “Doing this is very enjoyable”, “Do not allow your boyfriend to admire anyone”, “As long as you can eat it, you will be happy”…
The girl forgot one thing that the fruit, after being peeled and cut into pieces, no matter how carefully preserved, was somewhat damaged and no longer fresh. And yet, surely the other boyfriend doesn’t have an appetite when everything is ready-made.
The underlying purpose of this behavior is just for self-satisfaction: “Spending money from your parents to do something that makes you emotional.”
Through the girl’s exclamation, we realize one thing that all the effort is spent just to satisfy her own sense of vanity, and has no meaning for her boyfriend as in the text.
This is the same as: “I like to eat apples, you gave me a box of pears. You asked me if I was touched? I don’t know how to respond properly. Then you let the world know that you gave so much but only received coldness from me in the end.”
Relationships between people should maintain a certain comfort and distance. Do not impose your thoughts on others.
For example: If I like this, others must also like it. I love you, you must love me too.
This way of thinking is a manifestation of authoritarianism, which gradually causes problems in relationships because of control from one side.
Loving a person, of course you have to give, but still must be based on the principle of people volunteering. You actively give, but everything is in a forced situation, most importantly, the purpose behind is just to satisfy yourself. So is this love really true?
The adult world needs to have moderation, empathy and thinking for each other.